Newsletter 101

Mak ada langgan one newsletter SexInfo101 newsletter. Actually lama dah uols, mak langgan. So uols think mak ni sex maniac erk? Well, up to uols lah. Mak tak kisah. Bagi mak sex is part of life. No human can live happily without seks kan? Mengaku sajalah. Orang kata most guys masturbate in their life. Sama ada banyak or sedikit, kerap or jarang-jarangsss its up to individual taste dan desire kan? So if uols masturbate, means that uols get involves in seks. 

OKlah, back to the topic yang mak maksudkan. Dalam SexInfo101 kali ni ada some nice informations untuk improve uols punya seks needs.

Mak ada juga click the advertisements tu. Memanglah advertisment untuk membolehkan website beroperatelah uols. So one of the iklan yang mak click memaparkan satu position untuk uols play-play lah. Posisi tu dinamakan socket. Hmmm...socket. Rasanya macan alat eletrik tulah kot ye. Kan alat eletrik disambungkan menggunakan male socket dan female socket. Ishh....alat eletrik pun kena male and female baru boleh berfungsi. Hehehehe.... But humans ni male and male or female and female pun boleh click juga kan. Ahaksss....uols renungkanlah ye. Mak tak nak lah copy picture tu dan paste kat sini. Kalau uols nak tengok, CLICK, tengoklah AT YOUR OWN RISK. Satu lagi yang mak click ialah Oral Therapy. Hmm...tentu ramai dari uols tahu a[a itu oral kan? Ehh...mestila kan? Or uols nak tengok yang ni. It should be categorized as 18SX gitu. So be carefullah ye. Mana tahu ada yang bukan 18SX ternampak. 

Dalam newsletter tersebut ada dimuatkan tentang hadiah untuk Krismas hujung bulan ini. Ermm..walaupun dicadangkan untuk perayaan Krismas, tetapi uols boleh juga modify untuk dikongsi bersama partner uols masing-masing kan? Uols bacalah kat newsletter tersebut untuk mendapat idea. And uols boleh baca juga info-info lain di sini. 

Azab cinta sejenis

Negara kita ni macam bermusim. Sekarang ni musim lesbian atau dunia pengkid. Hari ini Metro menyiarkan pila tentang pengkid penipu.

Oleh Mary Victoria Dass
maryvictoria@hmetro.com.my
JOHOR BAHRU: “Janji dia menyayangi saya di dunia dan akhirat adalah drama semata-mata. Selepas dua bulan tinggal bersama, dia mula tunjuk belang termasuk mencuri wang dan menggadai semua barang kemas saya,” kata seorang mangsa pengkid temberang yang hanya mahu dikenali sebagai Anita, 33, semalam.

Ibu kepada seorang cahaya mata itu menyesali peristiwa hitam dalam kehidupannya gara-gara terpedaya pujuk rayu dan godaan kekasih kaum sejenis hingga melarikan diri meninggalkan anak dan suami pada 2005.

Dia sanggup melupakan anaknya yang ketika itu berusia tujuh tahun dan suami yang bekerja sebagai pekerja kontrak.

Mengenang semula peristiwa gelap itu, kata Anita, ia umpama mimpi buruk kerana tidak menyangka boleh terjalin hubungan intim bersama Angah yang berperwatakan lelaki di tempat kerja iaitu sebuah kilang di Tampoi.

“Angah yang berusia 40-an berpura-pura baik dan penyayang sehingga menjadi tempat saya berkongsi masalah keluarga. Hubungan kami kemudian bertambah rapat dan lebih daripada rakan biasa.

“Saya taksub dengan kata-kata Angah lalu mengabaikan tanggungjawab sebagai isteri mahupun ibu. Selama setahun menjalin hubungan bersamanya, saya sanggup membelanjakan semua duit gaji bagi memenuhi pelbagai permintaannya.

“Apabila cinta songsang kami diketahui keluarga, saya tidak berfikir panjang untuk melarikan diri apabila Angah mengajak memulakan kehidupan baru bersamanya disebabkan tiada pilihan lain untuk menyelamatkan hubungan itu,” katanya.

Anita berkata, mereka melarikan diri ke Melaka dengan bekerja sebagai operator pengeluaran manakala tempat tinggal di asrama pekerja.

Kebahagiaan mereka tidak kekal lama kerana pengkid terbabit mula menunjukkan sikap agresif termasuk nyaris mencederakannya beberapa kali apabila hubungan percintaannya dengan seorang gadis lain terbongkar.

“Angah sanggup mencuri pelbagai barang kemas saya dan wang semata-mata untuk menampung keperluan kehidupan sosialnya.

“Perbuatannya menimbulkan tekanan hebat kerana sudahlah saya meninggalkan keluarga demi dia, dia pula bersikap lepas tangan walaupun pernah berjanji sehidup semati bersama saya.

“Saya terkilan dengan tindakannya memperbodohkan saya apabila menghilangkan diri dan meninggalkan saya berseorangan,” katanya ketika ditemui di rumah keluarganya di Kempas, semalam.

Anita berkata, dia bersyukur kerana keluarga sanggup menerimanya dan berjanji tidak akan mengulangi perbuatan itu.

Selama ini dia bekerja di Temerloh kerana tidak mahu pulang kerana bimbang keluarga tidak akan menerima kehadirannya.

“Perpisahan itu balasan Allah terhadap perbuatan saya dan ia memberi pengajaran.

“Hanya kunci rumah yang saya bawa bersama menjadi pengubat rindu terhadap keluarga selama tiga tahun ini,” katanya yang tidak menyangka ahli keluarga termasuk ibunya yang sanggup meminta bantuan Harian Metro pertengahan Ogos lalu.

Dia yang membaca berita itu segera menelefon ibu dan memaklumkan situasi sebenar kerana tidak mahu dia bimbangkan keselamatannya.

“Kami tidak tahan sebak kerana sudah lama tidak berbual, tetapi saya tidak dapat pulang segera ke Johor kerana perlu memberi notis berhenti kerja kepada majikan.

“Saya tidak menjangka ibu dan anak saya, Lela yang kini sudah berusia 10 tahun sanggup menjemput saya di Terminal Pengangkutan Awam Larkin apabila saya tiba di Johor kelmarin,” katanya.

Pada 15 Ogos lalu, Harian Metro melaporkan perbuatan seorang tomboi yang melarikan isteri seorang pekerja kontrak sejak tiga tahun lalu hingga gagal dikesan.

Kejadian itu mengakibatkan keluarga wanita terbabit hanya mampu meratap kesedihan apabila insan kesayangan mereka menjadi mangsa pujukan tomboi itu.

Keluarga berkenaan pernah membuat laporan polis mengenai kehilangan wanita itu di Balai Polis Larkin di sini, 23 April 2005.

Gay Factor

Thursday November 27, 2008

LONDON LOG WITH CHOI TUCK WO

Britain is now tapping into the growing gay market.

WHILE the issue of tomboys and lesbians hogged the media limelight in Malaysia recently, the subject came up for debate in Britain, too.

The estimated three million gays and lesbians in Britain are being vigorously “courted” by various quarters – from High Street shops and Internet retailers to music stores and honeymoon tour operators.

With London being home to the largest gay and lesbian com-munity in Europe, there is a gro-wing awareness of the potential of this huge and lucrative market.

The latest report on gay consumers spending a whopping £23bil with their credit cards last year must have been an eye-opener for many retailers.

Even gay and lesbian honeymoons account for almost £50mil each year.

Admittedly, the number of gay weddings had dropped by nearly half to about 8,700 last year. But it doesn’t signal that the honeymoon is over for such marriages.

Obviously, the boom in 2005 was to be expected. When you have a backlog of people wanting to tie the knot, there will inevitably be a rush when they are allowed to do so.

Thus the decline may not be too surprising. If anything, the fall simply reflects a levelling out to a more normal rate.

There could also have been cases in which some gays had pulled out at the last minute, as they were not psychologically prepared to walk to the altar yet.

Amid the debate over the spending power of the gay community, the question is whether the marketing industry has done enough to capitalise on this largely untapped market.

Say what you like, but the industry needs to develop more new products, new targeted campaigns and more training for their workers to cater for gays and lesbians.

So far, the “one-size-fits-all” marketing promotions seem to be targeting the general population – the fashion-conscious, music lovers, food connoisseurs and even children.

Well, just about everyone, except the gay and lesbian consumers. For the most part, they are left pretty much to themselves to pick out what they want.

Then again, there’s nothing really wrong in buying the things you want based on your needs, instead of being influenced by advertising campaigns.

And during the financial squeeze, there’s even more reason to be prudent in one’s spending.

So while shopping for Christmas is inevitable, the tendency to overspend must be curbed, irrespective of the irresistible promotions and festive offers.

After all, it’s always wise to save for a rainy day. The economic slowdown affects everyone, whether gay or not.

Bintang Histeria

Barisan pelakon Histeria yang diambil dari Kosmo. Klik untuk lebih besar.

Filem Tentang Lesbian

Tentu uols masih ingat baru-baru ni Majlis Fatwa Kebangsaan telah mengharamkan pengkid. Then kali ini ada pula filem tempatan yang diterbitkan yang akan mengkisahkan tentang dunia lesbian ni. Filem tu bertajuk Histeria. Adakah nanti akan terbit pula filem yang mengisahkan tentang dunia gay and then dunia maknyah and then dunia crossdresser? Filem ini akan dijadikan sebagai precedent bagi filem-filem lain. Jika alam kehidupan lesbian boleh diluluskan oleh pihak Lembaga Penapis filem, tentu filem tentang alternatif lain pun kena lulus juga. Mak tak nak lah komen sangat kerana mak bukannya arif tentang filem ni.

Ada adegan panaslah uols : Sarat dengan adegan yang boleh dikatakan 'panas' termasuk babak ciuman antara dua watak perempuan iaitu Alissa dan Zeta,

Kecelaruan Gender - Panjang

Gender poser dalam The Star.

Wednesday November 26, 2008

Gender poser

THE DOCTOR SAYS
By DR MILTON LUM

While the causes of gender identity disorders are still disputed, one thing is certain – these patients need care and compassion, rather than discrimination.

A PERSON’S sex is defined, at the time of birth or soon after, by an inspection of the external genital organs (or anatomical sex).

The term “gender identity” refers to the person’s feelings as to whether he or she is male or female. “Gender role” describes how people publicly express themselves in their clothing, appearance, conversation, body language and behaviour.

A person with gender identity disorder (GID) has a marked discordance between his or her anatomical sex and gender identity. The person has cross-gender identification, with a desire to live and be accepted as a member of the opposite sex. In short, one who is identified as a male may feel like and act like a female, and vice versa. The common descriptive terms used are effeminate men and “butch” women.

It is important to distinguish gender identity from sexual orientation – which is the sex that one is attracted to – such as heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. The proportion of the latter in people with GID is not different from those who do not have GID.

Data from Europe reports that one in 30,000 adult males and one in 100,000 adult females seek sexual reassignment surgery due to GID. There is no published data on the prevalence of GID in Malaysia. However, Zulhizzam’s study of GID among male students in selected public institutions of higher learning in the Klang Valley provides some insight. Sixty-eight cases and 175 controls responded to self-administered questionnaires. Of the GID cases, 55 (80.9%) were Malays and 13 (19.1%) were non-Malays. Their characteristics included persistent cross gender roles in social or play activities (58 or 85.3%); spoke or attempted female speech (51 or 70.6%); displayed feminine-like body and limb movements (48 or 70.6%) and insisted on being treated or accepted as female (35 or 51.5%).

Some were disgusted with their own genitals and were willing to get rid of it (13 or 19.1%) and some had attempted to change their sexual characteristics by taking female hormones (13 or 19.1%). What is of concern is that high risk sexual behaviour was increased in GID cases (52.9%) as compared to controls (16.4%), with homosexuality, the most common sexual practice.

Causes

Although the causes of GID are still the subject of debate, there is evidence to suggest that the basis is neurobiological. Some believe that the physical and mental health of the affected person’s mother when pregnant plays a role in the genesis of GID. Others believe that there is an altered reaction between the foetal brain and the sex hormones in early pregnancy. Differences have also been found in the brains of male-to-female transsexuals.

GID has also been attributed to developmental problems in early childhood. Adults with GID have reported differences in child-rearing practices as compared to those without GID. Male-to-female transsexuals reported that their fathers were less warm, more rejecting, and controlled excessively. Female-to-male transsexuals reported that both parents were more rejecting and less emotionally warm, but their mothers were more overprotective.

GID is recognised as a medical problem. The various types of GID, according to the World Health Organisation classification are listed below.

Transsexualism is defined as “a desire to live and be accepted as a member of the opposite sex, usually accompanied by a sense of discomfort with, or inappropriateness of, one’s anatomic sex, and the wish to have surgery and hormonal treatment to make one’s body as congruent as possible with one’s preferred sex.”

Dual-role transvestism is defined as “the wearing of clothes of the opposite sex for part of the individual’s existence in order to enjoy the temporary experience of membership of the opposite sex, but without any desire for a more permanent sex change or associated surgical reassignment, and without sexual excitement accompanying the cross-dressing.”

Gender identity disorder of childhood is defined as “a disorder, usually first manifested during early childhood (and always well before puberty), characterised by a persistent and intense distress about assigned sex, together with a desire or insistence to be the other sex.

The diagnosis requires a profound disturbance of the normal gender identity; mere tomboyishness in girls or girlish behaviour in boys is not sufficient. Gender identity disorders in individuals who have reached or are entering puberty should not be classified here but as psychological and behavioural disorders associated with sexual development and orientation.”

The diagnosis of GID is complex as the phenomenon is not homogenous. The diagnostic criteria for GID (transsexualism) include strong and persistent cross-gender identification that extends beyond a desire for perceived advantages stated in the preceding paragraph.

GID in children is defined by four or more of the following characteristics: a desire to be the other sex; preference for cross-sex roles in play or preference for cross-dressing; persistent fantasies of being the other sex; intense desire to participate in stereotypical games and pastimes of the other sex; and strong preference for playmates of the other sex.

Boys loathe their penis or testes and rough play, believe their genitals will disappear, and reject male toys. Girls reject urinating in the sitting position, stress that they will grow a penis and do not want to grow breasts or menstruate, and dislike feminine clothes.

Adolescents and adults may experience the following: desire to be the other sex; frequent passing as the other sex; desire to live or be treated as the other sex; has the typical feelings and reactions of the opposite sex; and persistent discomfort with his or her sex or sense of inappropriateness in the gender role of that sex. Adolescents and adults may be preoccupied with getting rid of their sexual characteristics, and may believe that they were born with the wrong sex.

Treatment options

People with GID have significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other areas of functioning. There is a range of treatment options available, such as hormone therapy and sex reassignment surgery, for which the patient will be given counselling. Psychotherapy is essential as it will help in decisions about progression to hormone and surgical therapy.

Sex reassignment surgery (SRS) may be considered when the doctors supervising treatment are convinced of compliance with strict eligibility criteria. The surgical procedures for female-to-male SRS include removing breasts, the uterus and ovaries, and the construction of a penis and scrotum.

The surgical procedures for male-to-female SRS are removal of the penis and testes, construction of a vagina, breast augmentation, reshaping of the nose and throat and facial remodelling.

Not everyone requires or is suited for SRS. The factors contri buting to satisfaction include young age, strong family and social support, and successful surgery.

There is considerable social stigma attached to GID. This is sad as those affected need multi-disciplinary medical assistance. Society needs to be less judgmental and more caring and compassionate. This will go a long way in helping those who are in a situation that is not of their making.

Dr Milton Lum is chairperson of the Commonwealth Medical Trust. This article is not intended to replace, dictate or define evaluation by a qualified doctor. The views expressed do not represent that of any organisation the writer is associated with.

Bra Untuk Lelaki CD

Sebuah syarikat di Jepun telah menjual bra secara online untuk lelaki yang minat pada crossdressing dan telah menjadi salah satu item yang paling polupar. Tulah laporan dari Reuters. Komen mak: pastinya ramai lelaki straight yang berminat  memakai pakaian wanita bukan? Lelaki yang berminat dengan lingerie ni dikatakan sebagai lingerie fetish. Macam mak juga. Mula-mula dulu minat dengan panties sahaja dan kemudian upgrade ke bra. Pastu baru berubah kepada pakaian lain yang seksi meksi. 

 

Ni laporan dari Reuters tu yang mak translatekan. 

Tokyo, Jepun: 22 Nov 2008

Reuters

Siapa kata bra hanya untuk wanita? Sebuah kedai lingerie online menjual bra untuk lelaki yang minat crossdressing dan dengan cepat menjadi salah satu item yang paling popular. Ianya dilancarkan dua minggu lepas di Rakuten, sebuah shopping mall dalam talian Jepun. Kedai itu, The Wishroom telah menjual lebih daripada 300 bra untuk lelaki dengan harga 2,800 Yen  ($30) satu.  Kedai itu juga menjual panties untuk lelaki disamping lingerie untuk wanita. 

Seorang wakil Wishroom, Masayuki, yang mengayakan bra untuk lelaki itu memberitahu bahawa beliau rasa selesa dengan pakaian itu dan ianya boleh dipakai secara rahsia di bawah pakaian harian normal mereka. Seorang Pengarah Eksekutif Wishroom,AkikoOkunomiya, rasa hairan bahawa ramai lelaki yang mempunyai perasaan seperti wanita.

"Saya rasa semakin ramai lelaki sudah mula berminat dengan bra.  Sejak ianya dilancarkan, syarikat itu menerima maklumbalas dari pelanggan yang mengatakan,' wow! kami telah menanti perkara ini sejak sekian lama'.

Namun demikian, bra yang boleh didapati dalam warna hitam, merah jambu dan putih, bukannya sesuatu yang mudah dijual kepada semua lelaki. Pakaian dalam itu telah menimbulkan perdebatan hangat di Mixi, sebuah laman web sosial popular di Jepun. Lebih daripada 8,000 orang mempertikai kelebihan lelaki memakai bra itu.