Pertandingan Ratu Gay Di China

China's first gay pageant gives glimpse of new acceptance

Contest aims to boost community's confidence in country where homosexuality was classed as illness until 2001

Eight men competing in Mr Gay China, which organisers say is a striking sign of how far attitudes to homosexuality have changed Link to this video
There's a swimwear round and a talent section where contestants can show off their singing and dancing. But organisers insist the contest to be held this Friday is a serious business. It is China's first gay pageant.

The event is a striking sign of how far attitudes in China have changed and of gay people's increasing confidence. Gay sex was illegal until 1997. Homosexuality was classed as a mental illness for four years after that. Now an emerging gay community is busting stereotypes.

"We are intelligent, we're professionals, we're gorgeous – and we're gay," said contestant Emilio Liu, from Inner Mongolia. "I want the audience to know there are a whole bunch of people like us living in China. It's a wonderful life and it's not hidden any more."

These days there are gay support groups and websites helping people to explore their sexuality and meet potential partners. There are gay venues in most major cities; last year, the first government-backed bar opened in Kunming, in south-western Yunnan. Shanghai held the first Gay Pride week and in Beijing, campaigners called for same-sex marriages.

Now comes Mr Gay China, reported in approving terms in English-language state media. Eight finalists will take to the stage of a Beijing nightclub to strut their stuff in casual clothes and swimwear, exhibit their talents and answer questions. The winner – picked for his ability to represent gay issues as well as his skills, personality and looks – will head to Norway for next month's finals of Worldwide Mr Gay.

"I don't think people were ready before," said Ben Zhang, one of the organisers, recalling the "long and painful" process of discovering and accepting his sexuality, less than a decade ago.

It would be easy to overstate progress since then. Few of the participants are willing to give their full names and several complain about the stereotyping of gay men as weak or HIV-carriers. Strikingly, all are white collar workers and most have studied or worked abroad.

Zhang acknowledges that life is tougher outside the big cities, but says that is why the event is needed: "If this gets seen by some country boy in Ningxia, maybe he will realise 'It's not horrible to be gay and I'm not alone.'"

For many, the biggest issue is invisibility. "People want to stay out of trouble so they stay away from anything different ... It's not necessarily that they're afraid of it or think it's bad. They just don't want to know," said Liu, adding that a handful of friends cut him off after finding out that he was gay.

He said the pressures on gay men in China are different from those elsewhere, not greater, pointing out that there is no religious condemnation and that anti-gay violence is rare. But although Liu,26, says that most friends and family accept his sexuality, he has not come out to his father or grandparents.

"China is a very traditional society," explained Steve Zhang, 30, who works in sales.

Relatives have pestered him for years about finding a girl to marry. "When I finally told my uncle I had a boyfriend he wasn't surprised but said, 'Well, that's not a long term thing,'" Zhang added.

"They think having fun with boys doesn't mean you love them; you will still get married in the end."

The pressure to marry is one reason why some campaigners see gay marriage as a goal, along with legal protection against discrimination. But few expect such changes soon.

Official tolerance is highly variable. Activists and grassroots organisers complain of harassment by the authorities. Websites and publications have been shut down.

And although Shanghai Pride organisers deliberately kept it low key, with no banners or parade, the authorities forced the cancellation of some events.

Despite signs of growing confidence in challenging such actions – last year, gay men faced down police conducting a sweep of a Guangzhou park – most opt for a non-confrontational approach.

Organisers hope to avoid problems by keeping Mr Gay China low-key and did not invite mainstream Chinese-language media.

"Officials could show up and say 'your fire hydrant is in the wrong place," said Zhang. "It is still a sensitive issue."

Kelab Gay Diserbu

Inilah gambar kelab gay di Jalan Yap Kwan Seng telah diserbu oleh pihak berkuasa dan 500 tetamu terkedu. Polis telah membuat serbuan sewaktu pengunjung yang majoritinya lelaki, sedang asyik menari dan ada yang bercumbu dengan pasangan masing-masing.

Kelab gay itu dipercayai telah setahun beroperasi danmenjadi tumpuan lelaki yang tumpuan lelaki yang mempunyai keinginan pada kaum sejenis.

Pada hujung minggu premis itu dikatakan sentiasa penuh dan meriah gelagat pasangan gay yang bermacam-macam ragam.

Pegawai Penyiasat Narkotik Kuala Lumpur, Asst. Superintendan Mohd Ashril Md. Johar yang mengetuai operasi itu berkata, 28 lelaki dan empat wanita berumur antara 20 dan 50 tahun di

tahan kerana positif dadah jenis methamphetamine.

"Kesemua yang ditahan disiasat mengikut Seksyen 15(1)(a) Akta Dadah Berbahaya 1952 yang membawa hukuman penjara tiga tahun atau denda RM5,000.

"Polis turut menemui dadah eramin 5 di lantai kelab itu yang dipercayai dibuang oleh pengunjung kelab," kata beliau selepas operasi itu.

Dipetik dari Kosmo

Gay Pride

Masa mak tengah surf Ladyboy Forum, mak came across this posting about Gay Pride di Chicago, Amerika Syarikat. Mak just nak share dengan uols bahawa dalam apa sahaja yang berlaku di atas muka bumi ini dicipta Tuhan berpasangan. Ni gambar-gambar yang mak download dari forum tersebut. First two, kalangan yang meraikan Gay Pride berpesta dan berseronok.

A pride parade is nothing without day rodeos, drag queens and transexuals but I was surprised to see morestraight girls (who are annoying as hell!) and a whole bunch of alternatives who looked like a confetti ball a cat threw up.

The homosexual -to-fag-hag ratio has seriously tipped- what happened to the good old 5:1 days!

My first pride parade was rather dissappointing- it didn't live up to the grandeur of what Chicago gaypride was about and it certainly lacked the OTTspirit, held back by the narrow main street and the poorly managed crowds.

Gambar yang dua ni pula kumpulan memprotes pesta tersebut. Jadi tak bermakna masyarakat Barat semuanya menerima lifestyle alternatif begitu.

Perhimpunan Komuniti Gay Singapura

Komuniti gay Singapura telah menganjurkan satu perhimpunan buat kali pertama di sana. 2,500 gay dan lelaki straight telah berhimpun di Speaker's Corner di Hong Lim. Mereka datang untuk menyokong "freedom to love" tanpa mengambil kira orientasi seksual disamping menunjukkan sokongan dan penerimaan golongan LGBT dalam masyarakat. 

Perhimpunan yang dianjurkan oleh pinkdot Singapura itu bukan sahaja merupakan rally awam yang pertama sebagai sokongan kepada golongan lesbian, gay, biseksual dan transgender di Singapura tetapi merupakan himpunan yang dihadiri oleh ramai penyokong di Singapura sejak kerajaan melonggarkan larangan demonstrasi tahun lepas. Baca SETERUSNYA. 

His Massage Sucks

Mak dalam perjalanan ke Johor dan bercadang untuk singgah untuk mendapat masaj dulu. Dalam planning mak memang nak pergi lagi kat Fresh massage. Dan kali ini mak bertekad untuk ambil semula Madrid yang cuba nak fuck mak dulu. Madrid memang handsome bertubuh sasa, 7 incher and straight shaft.

Selepas park kereta, mak pun walk lah to Fresh massage. Masuk dalam mak terus ke wall yang dipamirkan pic masseur. Mata mak melompat from one pic to another. Agak keciwa juga kerana picture Madrid is not there. Maybe dah ada customer or maybe dah tak kerja lagi di situ. Mak pun tak tanya. So terpaskalah mak pilih masseur lain. Semasa membelek pic tu, mak buat selection juga. Taste mak yang handsome or cute or yang nampak feminine. Terdapat dua gambar cute guy. One is Chinese and another one Filipino. Tapi body they ol tak tegap sangat. Tu yang mak tak berapa taste. Mak tanya staff kat situ about beberapa keeping pic yang mak dah shortlist. In the end mak dah buat dua finalist. One cute Filipino guy dan sorang lagi Pakistan. Bila staff tu sebut saja Pakistan, terus mak ambik kerana dalam fikiran mak, tentu dia punya well endowed. Dia guna nama Bali.

Selepas membuat selection, mak disuruh tunggu. Wait punya wait akhirnya Bali sampai. Mmmmm….look dia tak berapa handsome seperti dalam pic. Tentu pic dia dah kena photoshop sebab nampak macam film star Bollywood. Tapi dah mak buat pilihan, mak have to acceptla. We both naik ke atas sebab mak pilih ‘buka’.

Mula we ol masuk room number 4. Mak pun tanggal seluar dan baju and then Bali cakap bilik tu a bit warm kerana aircond tak berapa sejuk. Dia cadang ditukarkan bilik dan mak tak membantah. Memang pun bilik tu a bit warm. So we all move to another room. Semasa pindah room tu, mak just pakai underwear saja. Kalau ada orang nampak pun mak tak kisahla. So we all masuk in one room. That room mak masih ingat pernah masuk dulu. Masa tu mak ambik one masseur Melayu from Kelantan. Masaj dia kira okla but mak tak dapat apa yang mak expect. Dia tak bagi mak nak blow dia. Frustla juga masa tu.

Mak strip dan lay down on the tilam. Bali keluar ke tandas sekejap. Mak baring naked atas tilam menantikan Bali mula masaj mak.

Mak rasa pelik juga kerana dia mulakan masaj pada kaki. Selalunya mak kena masaj kat belakang dahulu then baru kaki, tangan and after that bahagian hadapan pula. Tapi tak kisahla. Maybe itu stail dia. Apa yang mak wait for iala nak rasa sama ada dia naked atau tak. Apabila mak rasa dicky dia tersentuh kaki mak, maka confirmlah dia pun naked sama. Selepas masaj kedua belah kaki mak barulah dia masaj badan. Dia naik ke atas paha mak dan memang terasa dicky dia yang soft terkena mak punya bump. Selesai belakang. Dia suruh mak terlentang. Memang masa tulah yang mak tunggu.

Mak pun terlentang dan barulah mak nampak dicky dia. Lembik lagi. Dia duduk atas paha mak dan dicky dia bersentuhan dengan dicky mak. Dia mula masaj dada dan perut mak. Masa itulah tangan mak mula menyentuh dan membelai dicky dia. Perlahan-lahan dicky dia mula memanjang dan membesar. Salah satu pilihan mak adalah tepat iaitu well endowed. Mak  rasa dia memang 7 incher sebab mak ukur menggunakan mak punya. Terasa pula mak less endowed. Tangan mak terus play dengan dicky dia and in the end mak masturbate dia. Lama juga tangan mak berusaha dan akhirnya dia release kat atas perut mak. Tak banyak sangat, mungkin dah keluar sebelum itu.

Selepas selesai masaj kami sama-sama pergi shower. Memang seronok dapat shower berdua in the nude gitu. Mak soapkan dicky dia masa shower.

Selepas mak selesai mengenakan pakaian dan sebelum mak nak keluar dia minta tip. Mak tanya what tip sebab sebelum itu tidak ada masseur yang minta tip. Dia jawab sebab I take out my water. Hmmmm……masseur lain pun mak take out the water juga tapi tak minta tip pun. But mak kasi jugala RM 10.00. so all together with massage totalnya jadilah RM 65, RM 55 untuk masaj dan tip kat dia RM 10.00.

Bali ni sebenarnya kerja secara part time sebagai masseur. Dia kata yang dia pelajar kolej di KL.

Conclusion: Mak dapat just a well endowed dicky but masaj dia sucks.  He is not a good masseur. Mak punya penilaian dia just give a body rub. Tu saja. 

Aktiviti Kat Labuan

Hari tu mak kat Labuan. Memanglah seronok kalau pergi Labuan, pulau bebas cukai tu. Tapi yang mendapat menafaat from that status ialah perokok and drinkers. Harga alkohol dan rokok memanglah murah. Barang lain tak banyak murahnya. Tetapi coklat pun kira murah juga la. Thats why if you go to Labuan macam tak sah kalau tak  beli coklat buat ole-oleh bawa balik. Also perfume la. 

Mak dah banyak kali dah sampai pulau bebas cukai ni. So kira tak asinglah lagi bagi mak. Kali mak stay kat Hotel Labuan Dua. Hotel tu memang selalu full house sebab ramai pekerja offshore yang naik ke darat akan stay hotel tu.  Mak rasa ni dah kali ketiga mak stay kat hotel ni. Sederhana saja, no star pun. 

Macam mak tulis tadi kat sini tak der akses internet. So apa yang mak buat kat bilik ialah sort out gambar yang beribu kat laptop mak ni. Bila boring mak buka pula story mory dewasa dan translate. Dapat juga beberapa cerita yang mak translate ke dalam BM gitu. Kira mak boleh consider diri mak ni translator lah kot. Ahakssss.....

Memang tak boleh dudukla kalau tak surf. So mak pergi lah ke CC. Kat CC tu boleh guna laptop sendiri dan harganya pun sama. Mak pun surf sambil-sambil chatting kar MIRC. Dipendekkan cerita, berkenalanlah dengan two gay guys. So datinglah kat mak dengan dua orang anak muda itu. Then janjilah nak datang ke bilik. Mak tak kisah. Mak invite je. 

Malam tu one of the guy datang ke bilik mak. Memang dia taste mak la. Clean shaven and quite cute. Mak pula just wrap in towel je. Macam dah ready la...... We ol just sembang-sembang. Dia pun macam busy dan katanya nak jumpa kawan kejap lepas tu. Then nak datang semula. Tataula betul atau tidak. Because dia tak datang balik pun. Maybe mak bukan taste dia kot. 

Malam berikutnya yang seorang lagi datang. Macam biasa mak just wrap in towel je. So dia sit on the bed, which in maknyer opinion some suggestive move. What else kan kalau dah dok atas katil, tentu nak *teeet*. Then mak masuk bilik mandi untuk wash myself a bit and bila keluar mak dah tak balut tuala lagi. Mak just hold the towel and let him see what I have. He get my message. Mak terus letak towel kat kerusi and with my naked body naik and sit next to him on the bed. The game begin........ 

But as usual mak tak menganal la. Every other thing is OK for me. So kalau mak dah cakap tak meng anal, tentu uols tahu apa yang mak buat dengan another gay kan? Tak payahlah mak describe in detail. 

Masa kat Labuan juga mak ada belikan a pair of pantyhose. A cheap one just to wear lepaskan gian. So mak belilah yang harga RM 2.90 kat one of the supermarket. So mak pakailah and posing-posing kat bilik. 

Sekali tu mak wear it under mak nyer pants dan keluar jalan-jalan kat bandar Labuan tu. But so unfortunate, the pantyhose koyak at the wrong (er.... I mean right) place. From a normal pantyhose dah jadi macam crotchless pantyhose pula. 

Tandas CM Di KL

Metroplus (bukan Metro Fulus) melaporkan bahawa tandas awam di Central Market KL telah menjadi tempat popular untuk gay berjumpa dan bermesra.  Popularitinya telah disebarkan dalam internet yang menyebabkan ia semakin mendapat perhatian golongan gay. Ia juga menjadi tempat pertemuan untuk gay yang datang dari luar Kuala Lumpur.  THE Central Market toilet in Kuala Lumpur has turned into a popular place for gay men to meet and hook up, reported Metroplus. Dilaporkan juga Ketua Pengawal CM dan kakitangannya telah menangkap dengan beberapa pasangan gay yang sedang beraksi dan diberi amaran tetapi mereka masih mengulanginya.  Kebanyakan pasangan gay yang di tangkap itu dari kalangan yang berpelajaran dan mempunyai kerja yang terhormat dan apa yang mampu dilakukan oleh pihak pengurusan bangunan hanyalah sekadar memberi nasihat.  Ada di kalangan gay yang ditangkap itu datang dari luar Kuala Lumpur danberjumpa di situ untuk memuaskan nafsu mereka.

Cakap-cakap HIV

Satu

Mulai tahun hadapan semua yang nak mendirikan rumahtangga diwajibkan menjalani ujian HIV untuk memastikan penyakit itu tidak akan disebarkan kepada anak-anak. Mak setujulah tetapi mengapa hanya untuk orang Islam sahaja. Apakah HIV hanya merebak di kalangan orang Islam sahaja. Sepatutnya undang-undang ini untuk semua rakyat Malaysia tanpa mengira agama dan bangsa. 

Dua

Kelmarin mak chat kat MIRC. Dah lama juga mak tak chat kat situ. Macam biasa mak akan masuk channel Nyah dan Sayangabang. Sosalah seorang chatter mak itiew, nak nasihat kat mak untuk berhati-hati dengan HIV ni khususnya AIDS. Dia tanya mak pasal apa mak suka sangat main dengan jantanz gay dan Maknyah. Dia kata golongan ini adalah penyebar HIV dan AIDS. Dalam hati mak kesian kat anak ikan ni sebab dia dunggu sangat tentang HIV dan AIDS. Siapa kata penyakit itu disebarkan olehhanya dua golongan ini kan? Mak rasa lebih ramai penagih dadah yang mengidap HIV dan AIDS berbanding maknyah dan gays. Apa yang buatkan dia marah kat mak ialah kerana mak tak nak layan dia. Dia hantar msg kat mak nak hisap mak sebab nick  dia pun memberikan mesej untuk buat benda itiew. Mak jawab yang mak lebih berminat dengan cute guys, sissy guys, clean shaven guys dan maknyah. 

So dia mula marah kat mak sebab pilihan mak itu. Dia tanya mak dah berapa lama mak menghidap AIDS ni. So mak jawablah yang dah 15 tahun dah mak membawanya. Hahahahaha.......jawapan mak itu menunjukkan kemarahan mak bukan kerana menuduh mak penyebar AIDS tetapi kerana kebodohannya. 

Gay Factor

Thursday November 27, 2008

LONDON LOG WITH CHOI TUCK WO

Britain is now tapping into the growing gay market.

WHILE the issue of tomboys and lesbians hogged the media limelight in Malaysia recently, the subject came up for debate in Britain, too.

The estimated three million gays and lesbians in Britain are being vigorously “courted” by various quarters – from High Street shops and Internet retailers to music stores and honeymoon tour operators.

With London being home to the largest gay and lesbian com-munity in Europe, there is a gro-wing awareness of the potential of this huge and lucrative market.

The latest report on gay consumers spending a whopping £23bil with their credit cards last year must have been an eye-opener for many retailers.

Even gay and lesbian honeymoons account for almost £50mil each year.

Admittedly, the number of gay weddings had dropped by nearly half to about 8,700 last year. But it doesn’t signal that the honeymoon is over for such marriages.

Obviously, the boom in 2005 was to be expected. When you have a backlog of people wanting to tie the knot, there will inevitably be a rush when they are allowed to do so.

Thus the decline may not be too surprising. If anything, the fall simply reflects a levelling out to a more normal rate.

There could also have been cases in which some gays had pulled out at the last minute, as they were not psychologically prepared to walk to the altar yet.

Amid the debate over the spending power of the gay community, the question is whether the marketing industry has done enough to capitalise on this largely untapped market.

Say what you like, but the industry needs to develop more new products, new targeted campaigns and more training for their workers to cater for gays and lesbians.

So far, the “one-size-fits-all” marketing promotions seem to be targeting the general population – the fashion-conscious, music lovers, food connoisseurs and even children.

Well, just about everyone, except the gay and lesbian consumers. For the most part, they are left pretty much to themselves to pick out what they want.

Then again, there’s nothing really wrong in buying the things you want based on your needs, instead of being influenced by advertising campaigns.

And during the financial squeeze, there’s even more reason to be prudent in one’s spending.

So while shopping for Christmas is inevitable, the tendency to overspend must be curbed, irrespective of the irresistible promotions and festive offers.

After all, it’s always wise to save for a rainy day. The economic slowdown affects everyone, whether gay or not.

Kecelaruan Gender - Panjang

Gender poser dalam The Star.

Wednesday November 26, 2008

Gender poser

THE DOCTOR SAYS
By DR MILTON LUM

While the causes of gender identity disorders are still disputed, one thing is certain – these patients need care and compassion, rather than discrimination.

A PERSON’S sex is defined, at the time of birth or soon after, by an inspection of the external genital organs (or anatomical sex).

The term “gender identity” refers to the person’s feelings as to whether he or she is male or female. “Gender role” describes how people publicly express themselves in their clothing, appearance, conversation, body language and behaviour.

A person with gender identity disorder (GID) has a marked discordance between his or her anatomical sex and gender identity. The person has cross-gender identification, with a desire to live and be accepted as a member of the opposite sex. In short, one who is identified as a male may feel like and act like a female, and vice versa. The common descriptive terms used are effeminate men and “butch” women.

It is important to distinguish gender identity from sexual orientation – which is the sex that one is attracted to – such as heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. The proportion of the latter in people with GID is not different from those who do not have GID.

Data from Europe reports that one in 30,000 adult males and one in 100,000 adult females seek sexual reassignment surgery due to GID. There is no published data on the prevalence of GID in Malaysia. However, Zulhizzam’s study of GID among male students in selected public institutions of higher learning in the Klang Valley provides some insight. Sixty-eight cases and 175 controls responded to self-administered questionnaires. Of the GID cases, 55 (80.9%) were Malays and 13 (19.1%) were non-Malays. Their characteristics included persistent cross gender roles in social or play activities (58 or 85.3%); spoke or attempted female speech (51 or 70.6%); displayed feminine-like body and limb movements (48 or 70.6%) and insisted on being treated or accepted as female (35 or 51.5%).

Some were disgusted with their own genitals and were willing to get rid of it (13 or 19.1%) and some had attempted to change their sexual characteristics by taking female hormones (13 or 19.1%). What is of concern is that high risk sexual behaviour was increased in GID cases (52.9%) as compared to controls (16.4%), with homosexuality, the most common sexual practice.

Causes

Although the causes of GID are still the subject of debate, there is evidence to suggest that the basis is neurobiological. Some believe that the physical and mental health of the affected person’s mother when pregnant plays a role in the genesis of GID. Others believe that there is an altered reaction between the foetal brain and the sex hormones in early pregnancy. Differences have also been found in the brains of male-to-female transsexuals.

GID has also been attributed to developmental problems in early childhood. Adults with GID have reported differences in child-rearing practices as compared to those without GID. Male-to-female transsexuals reported that their fathers were less warm, more rejecting, and controlled excessively. Female-to-male transsexuals reported that both parents were more rejecting and less emotionally warm, but their mothers were more overprotective.

GID is recognised as a medical problem. The various types of GID, according to the World Health Organisation classification are listed below.

Transsexualism is defined as “a desire to live and be accepted as a member of the opposite sex, usually accompanied by a sense of discomfort with, or inappropriateness of, one’s anatomic sex, and the wish to have surgery and hormonal treatment to make one’s body as congruent as possible with one’s preferred sex.”

Dual-role transvestism is defined as “the wearing of clothes of the opposite sex for part of the individual’s existence in order to enjoy the temporary experience of membership of the opposite sex, but without any desire for a more permanent sex change or associated surgical reassignment, and without sexual excitement accompanying the cross-dressing.”

Gender identity disorder of childhood is defined as “a disorder, usually first manifested during early childhood (and always well before puberty), characterised by a persistent and intense distress about assigned sex, together with a desire or insistence to be the other sex.

The diagnosis requires a profound disturbance of the normal gender identity; mere tomboyishness in girls or girlish behaviour in boys is not sufficient. Gender identity disorders in individuals who have reached or are entering puberty should not be classified here but as psychological and behavioural disorders associated with sexual development and orientation.”

The diagnosis of GID is complex as the phenomenon is not homogenous. The diagnostic criteria for GID (transsexualism) include strong and persistent cross-gender identification that extends beyond a desire for perceived advantages stated in the preceding paragraph.

GID in children is defined by four or more of the following characteristics: a desire to be the other sex; preference for cross-sex roles in play or preference for cross-dressing; persistent fantasies of being the other sex; intense desire to participate in stereotypical games and pastimes of the other sex; and strong preference for playmates of the other sex.

Boys loathe their penis or testes and rough play, believe their genitals will disappear, and reject male toys. Girls reject urinating in the sitting position, stress that they will grow a penis and do not want to grow breasts or menstruate, and dislike feminine clothes.

Adolescents and adults may experience the following: desire to be the other sex; frequent passing as the other sex; desire to live or be treated as the other sex; has the typical feelings and reactions of the opposite sex; and persistent discomfort with his or her sex or sense of inappropriateness in the gender role of that sex. Adolescents and adults may be preoccupied with getting rid of their sexual characteristics, and may believe that they were born with the wrong sex.

Treatment options

People with GID have significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other areas of functioning. There is a range of treatment options available, such as hormone therapy and sex reassignment surgery, for which the patient will be given counselling. Psychotherapy is essential as it will help in decisions about progression to hormone and surgical therapy.

Sex reassignment surgery (SRS) may be considered when the doctors supervising treatment are convinced of compliance with strict eligibility criteria. The surgical procedures for female-to-male SRS include removing breasts, the uterus and ovaries, and the construction of a penis and scrotum.

The surgical procedures for male-to-female SRS are removal of the penis and testes, construction of a vagina, breast augmentation, reshaping of the nose and throat and facial remodelling.

Not everyone requires or is suited for SRS. The factors contri buting to satisfaction include young age, strong family and social support, and successful surgery.

There is considerable social stigma attached to GID. This is sad as those affected need multi-disciplinary medical assistance. Society needs to be less judgmental and more caring and compassionate. This will go a long way in helping those who are in a situation that is not of their making.

Dr Milton Lum is chairperson of the Commonwealth Medical Trust. This article is not intended to replace, dictate or define evaluation by a qualified doctor. The views expressed do not represent that of any organisation the writer is associated with.

Parti Gay Diserbu

70 orang lelaki telah disoalsiasat oleh pihak polis setalah mereka ditahan dalam satu serbuan dalam apa yang dikatakan sebagai parti gay. Mereka ditahan dalam satu serbuan pihak polis di pusat kesihatan, rumah urut tradisional di Seberang Jaya dan Georgetown dalam usaha pihak polis untu kmembentaras kegiatan pelacuran.

Berita selanjutnya

GEORGE TOWN, Malaysia: Police broke up four gay parties and nabbed 70 people, some of whom were literally caught with their pants down. Those detained included locals, Americans, Europeans and a Chinese national.

Police, in a blitz to weed out vice activities here and in Seberang Jaya on Saturday, stumbled upon the parties specially organised for the men.

In the three-hour raids that started at 5.30pm, police stormed into a traditional massage parlour and a fitness centre in Midlands Park and two other fitness centres in Seberang Jaya.

The raiding party seized used condoms, pornography DVDs, gay magazines, lubrication jelly and boxes of condoms found in the four premises.

Police said the organisers had used legitimate businesses as their front to conduct the illicit activities to hoodwink the authorities.

George Town Deputy OCPD Supt Gan Kong Meng said they arrested 29 men, including a Chinese national, at the massage parlour and fitness centre here during the 8.30pm raid.

Many of them were found naked when police walked into the joints, he said.

The men, aged between 20 and 40, were arrested and questioned at the state police headquarters in Penang Road and were later released on bail, he added.

"Those caught will be charged with gross indecency," said Supt Gan, adding that police had raided the massage parlour and fitness centre five times in the past.

In Seberang Jaya, the police conducted the raid following public tip-offs and caught 41 suspects, including the Westerners.

The suspects were taken to the Seberang Jaya district police headquarters and had their statements recorded before being released on police bail.

Police are also looking for the owners of the two premises to prosecute them for allowing their premises to be used as vice dens.

Dilemma Gay Veteran

My Metro hari ini melaporkan tentang seorang lelaki yang telah berumahtangga dan mempunyai anak tetapi berjiwa gay. Dilaporkan lelaki itu mula rasa gelisah dan dalam delima kerana perasaan gay itu tidak dpat dibebaskan dari jiwanya. Baca sepenuhnya......

Time To Engage Maknyah

Dipetik dari The Star online.

A writer's life Thursday August 14, 2008
Time to engage Mak Nyah
A WRITER'S LIFE BY DINA ZAMAN

The Mak Nyah community wants to be part of society and to be accepted as they are. This calls for heart-to-heart engagement and not enforcement.

A TRANSSEXUAL asked: “Since Islam rejects people like me, may I leave Islam?”

“Now I know you are really crazy! You’re already in trouble with the authorities, you want to court more trouble?” her colleague interjected.

“I don’t see what the problem is. You, and I, and everyone here are subject to harassment all the time, and constantly reminded that we are an abhorrent to the faith. So why be part of a religion that rejects you?”

This particular dilemma was discussed at an audit I undertook as part of an HIV/AIDS project recently.

The audit was conducted to identify gaps in outreach work in HIV/AIDS in Malaysia, and the discussion with transsexuals, who make up a good number of marginalised communities (the others are injecting drug users, gay men and sex workers), was illuminating to say the least.
A transsexual identifies 'herself' as – or desires to live and be accepted as – a member of the sex opposite to that assigned at birth.

In Malaysia, derogatory slang to describe them would be pondans, laki lembut or mak nyah, though the latter term has been embraced by the community as an identifying factor in their cause.

The public perception of transsexuals ranges from contempt and revilement to resigned acceptance.

The fact is, transsexuals have existed in our society even before Independence, and played a significant role in the community.

They’re the dapur pondans – kitchen helpers – who worked for families as cooks and cleaners in a long gone era, and in villages were known as meks, who acted as the local tailor, make-up artist and wedding planner.
It is fascinating to compare the fond memories of the older generation of Malaysians who grew up with transsexuals as neighbours and domestic help.

The argument that is bandied in contemporary Malaysia is that they knew their place, and were not ‘out there’ now as transsexuals who – as moralists have argued – contribute to moral decay.
From a religious standpoint, transsexualism is forbidden. Islam permits hermaphrodites to undergo sex change operations so the person can choose to be either a female or male.
Forbidden are mukhannis – men who behave like women and dress like them, and even undergoing sex change surgery to become women.

Non-Muslim transsexuals fare slightly better than their Muslim counterparts, as there is no official ruling as with the Muslims, even though their religions also forbid such actions. If caught, they would be charged for cross dressing and indecent behaviour under Section 21 of the Minor Offences Act 1955.

A Muslim man caught cross dressing can be charged under Section 28, Syariah Criminal Offences (FT) Act 1997, for immoral behaviour, and is liable to a fine not exceeding RM1,000 or to imprisonment not exceeding one year, or both.

The biggest grouse that rose out of the discussion was how they were portrayed on television shows by male personalities. Camped up, and in the words of a TS “? crude and lascivious ?” Not all transsexuals are involved in sex work, are campy, crass and uneducated.

“Why are we made the receiving end of jokes?” a transsexual asked. “The authorities tell us that what we do is bad ? as we are men, and should behave like men.

“And on television you have male actors dressed in drag, and playing it up to the hilt. And the language used! This makes us look bad.

“It doesn’t help when a few TS also play up to the myth by being loud and crass.”

Also noted was how the media approached the subject of transsexuals and transgender. The Malay media would be rather patronising, which does not help the cause. The English media sit on the fence, while the Chinese press is more open and sympathetic.

What transsexuals want is for them and the media to work together to highlight the social and health issues they face, so that they can do more effective advocacy work with government and religious authorities.

The reason a number of TS are involved in sex work is because they do not have a source of income.

With the market already so saturated by wedding planners of various sexualities (not all transsexuals want a career in fashion and cosmetics), and in ‘proper’ professional institutions their very presence clashes with the image of the organisation, where are they to go, and what are they to do?

B who comes from a well-to-do and supportive Malay family, thinks the problems could be solved if transsexuals themselves do not engage in “improper behaviour”.

She is one of the very few transsexuals who keep away from the Mak Nyah community. She considers herself well educated and proper, and does not indulge in clubbing and other activities that transsexuals involve themselves in, as she believes all these negate their cause.

When asked if she would consider mentoring, as she would be considered a ‘successful transgender’ who has assimilated well in society, she declined.

The issue of class and economic status is too jarring, and there would be resentment.

“It’s how you carry yourself, that makes people respect you. I know people think I’m a snob, but I could never let down my family.”

She practises safe sex, dates ‘proper men’ and not “sell her body”. She has no contact with her ‘sisters’ from Chow Kit and from the less stellar parts of Kuala Lumpur.

All is not lost. Already there are success stories: at PT Foundation, a weekly fardhu ain class is held for TS, sex workers and people in the community, so they can learn more about Islam.

More transsexuals are claiming their rights and are empowered. What the authorities, the medical community, human rights activists and the TS community should do is to keep on engaging with each other on TS issues.

The writer lives in KL. She thanks her readers for their emails but is unable to reply to everyone because of work.
email: dinazaman@gmail.com

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