Time To Engage Maknyah

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A writer's life Thursday August 14, 2008
Time to engage Mak Nyah
A WRITER'S LIFE BY DINA ZAMAN

The Mak Nyah community wants to be part of society and to be accepted as they are. This calls for heart-to-heart engagement and not enforcement.

A TRANSSEXUAL asked: “Since Islam rejects people like me, may I leave Islam?”

“Now I know you are really crazy! You’re already in trouble with the authorities, you want to court more trouble?” her colleague interjected.

“I don’t see what the problem is. You, and I, and everyone here are subject to harassment all the time, and constantly reminded that we are an abhorrent to the faith. So why be part of a religion that rejects you?”

This particular dilemma was discussed at an audit I undertook as part of an HIV/AIDS project recently.

The audit was conducted to identify gaps in outreach work in HIV/AIDS in Malaysia, and the discussion with transsexuals, who make up a good number of marginalised communities (the others are injecting drug users, gay men and sex workers), was illuminating to say the least.
A transsexual identifies 'herself' as – or desires to live and be accepted as – a member of the sex opposite to that assigned at birth.

In Malaysia, derogatory slang to describe them would be pondans, laki lembut or mak nyah, though the latter term has been embraced by the community as an identifying factor in their cause.

The public perception of transsexuals ranges from contempt and revilement to resigned acceptance.

The fact is, transsexuals have existed in our society even before Independence, and played a significant role in the community.

They’re the dapur pondans – kitchen helpers – who worked for families as cooks and cleaners in a long gone era, and in villages were known as meks, who acted as the local tailor, make-up artist and wedding planner.
It is fascinating to compare the fond memories of the older generation of Malaysians who grew up with transsexuals as neighbours and domestic help.

The argument that is bandied in contemporary Malaysia is that they knew their place, and were not ‘out there’ now as transsexuals who – as moralists have argued – contribute to moral decay.
From a religious standpoint, transsexualism is forbidden. Islam permits hermaphrodites to undergo sex change operations so the person can choose to be either a female or male.
Forbidden are mukhannis – men who behave like women and dress like them, and even undergoing sex change surgery to become women.

Non-Muslim transsexuals fare slightly better than their Muslim counterparts, as there is no official ruling as with the Muslims, even though their religions also forbid such actions. If caught, they would be charged for cross dressing and indecent behaviour under Section 21 of the Minor Offences Act 1955.

A Muslim man caught cross dressing can be charged under Section 28, Syariah Criminal Offences (FT) Act 1997, for immoral behaviour, and is liable to a fine not exceeding RM1,000 or to imprisonment not exceeding one year, or both.

The biggest grouse that rose out of the discussion was how they were portrayed on television shows by male personalities. Camped up, and in the words of a TS “? crude and lascivious ?” Not all transsexuals are involved in sex work, are campy, crass and uneducated.

“Why are we made the receiving end of jokes?” a transsexual asked. “The authorities tell us that what we do is bad ? as we are men, and should behave like men.

“And on television you have male actors dressed in drag, and playing it up to the hilt. And the language used! This makes us look bad.

“It doesn’t help when a few TS also play up to the myth by being loud and crass.”

Also noted was how the media approached the subject of transsexuals and transgender. The Malay media would be rather patronising, which does not help the cause. The English media sit on the fence, while the Chinese press is more open and sympathetic.

What transsexuals want is for them and the media to work together to highlight the social and health issues they face, so that they can do more effective advocacy work with government and religious authorities.

The reason a number of TS are involved in sex work is because they do not have a source of income.

With the market already so saturated by wedding planners of various sexualities (not all transsexuals want a career in fashion and cosmetics), and in ‘proper’ professional institutions their very presence clashes with the image of the organisation, where are they to go, and what are they to do?

B who comes from a well-to-do and supportive Malay family, thinks the problems could be solved if transsexuals themselves do not engage in “improper behaviour”.

She is one of the very few transsexuals who keep away from the Mak Nyah community. She considers herself well educated and proper, and does not indulge in clubbing and other activities that transsexuals involve themselves in, as she believes all these negate their cause.

When asked if she would consider mentoring, as she would be considered a ‘successful transgender’ who has assimilated well in society, she declined.

The issue of class and economic status is too jarring, and there would be resentment.

“It’s how you carry yourself, that makes people respect you. I know people think I’m a snob, but I could never let down my family.”

She practises safe sex, dates ‘proper men’ and not “sell her body”. She has no contact with her ‘sisters’ from Chow Kit and from the less stellar parts of Kuala Lumpur.

All is not lost. Already there are success stories: at PT Foundation, a weekly fardhu ain class is held for TS, sex workers and people in the community, so they can learn more about Islam.

More transsexuals are claiming their rights and are empowered. What the authorities, the medical community, human rights activists and the TS community should do is to keep on engaging with each other on TS issues.

The writer lives in KL. She thanks her readers for their emails but is unable to reply to everyone because of work.
email: dinazaman@gmail.com

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Sembang Dengan Prostitute Di Sibu

Malam itu selepas mak turun dari massage, mak jalan-jalan kat area Markte Street tu seperti yang mak tulis dalam blog sebelum ini. Rpuanya apabila menjelang tengah malam kawasan itu adalah kawasan pelacuran. Mak nampak ramai women yang menjual tubuh hang around kat situ. Mak terus jalan and then nampak pula dua orang maknyah, yang juga turut memperjudikan nasib mencari makan kat area yang sama. So di sini bagi jantanz yang gersangs and ingin melempiaskan nafsu bolehlah memilih sama ada nak perempuan ori or nak kan maknyah. Cuma gays saja yang tak ada mencari mangsa kat area tu. Ahakssssss.

Mak terus jalan and then at one corner mak nampak the women that came into my room the night before. Memanglah dia cam mak so mak pun tegurlah dia. Then we all bersembang kat teli kaki lima itu. So anybody yang nampak mak kat situ sudah pasti akan menyangka mak sedang tawar menawar untuk mendapatkan pekhidmatan seks dari this women. Tapi mak tak kisahlah sebab kat Sibu ni mak rasa tak ada orang yang kenal dengan mak. So mak don't care about it.

Mak banyak korek juga tentang rahsia dirinya. Rupanya dia menjadi prostitute tu kerana nak memberi makan kepada keluarganya. Dia sudah bercerai dengan suaminya dan kini single mum. Single mum? Hmm.....nak katakan single mum pun mak rasa not very accurate la. Anak tunggalnya sudah pun besar dan sudah berumahtangga tetapi bercerai juga. Kahwin dengan orang kampu sendiri tanpa pengetahaunnya. Setelah berkahwin baru tahu dia dah kahwin. Bukan orang lain, sanak saudara juga.

This women yang sembang dengan mak mengaku yang dia kahwin sewaktu dia berusia 14 tahun, drop out from school. No wonderlah anak sudah besar dan dia sudah ada cucu. Kini anaknya sedang menjalani praktikal sebagai jururawat di Kota Kinabalu.

Mak tanya sama ada anak dia tahu yang maknya jadi pelacur dan dia jawab ya. Tetapi anaknya tak menegah pula. Itulah nasib wanita. Macam maknyah juga. Many kena jual diri di lorong disebabkan masyarakat menolak mereka. Masyarakat juga yang pandai menghukum dengan enggan memberikan mereka kesempatan untuk bekerja secara terhormat. Dek kerana nak hidup terpaksa menjual tubuh. Masyarakat hanya pandai mengutuk kan uols? Tetapi tidak berusaha untuk memperbaiki keadaan. Mak sedar maknyah ni jadi maknyah bukan atas kehendak mereka. Maybe somelah . OKlah, uols. Bateri laptop mak ni pun dah nak kong dah. Mak post ni dari airport Sibu, tunggu flight nak balik KL.

Urut Bathin Kat Sibu

Malam tadi mak jalan-jalan kat Market Street di bandar Sibu ni selepas gi masaj. Di sibu ni nampaknya trend menamakan massage centre sebagai Spa. Adalah beberapa buah spa yang mak nampak dan semua spa ni menyediakan full body massage. So mak tanyalah satu spa ni harga untuk full body massage dan diberitahu sebanyak RM40. Kira murahlah. Aritu kawan mak gi satu Spa kena RM80. So mak masuklah spa ni yang sebenarnya nama saja spa. Ia merupakan rumah kedai dua tingkat terletak di lorong belakang Market Street itu. Masuk melalui salon gunting rambut.

Mak masuk dan memberitahu nak massage. So one this Chinese lady terus bawa mak naik ke tingkat atas. Terdapat massage rooms lah uols yang ada satu katil massage. Bilik tu ditutupi hanya dengan tabir saja. Masuk ke dalam Chinese women tu pun suruh mak strip. Mak tak kisah nak strip depan dia. Mak buka habis dan tak balut lagi tuubuh mak dengan towel seperti biasa. Lagipun dia tak bagi pun towel kat mak. So mak buka semua dan dalam keadaan naked itu mak naik dan baring atas massage table tu. Lady tu pun mula mengurut belakang mak, as usual la concentrate from shoulder ke ass cheek. Pastu barulah turun ke kaki. Masa masaj kat paha tulah sedapnya bila jarinya sekali-sekali tersentuh the balls.

Then dia suruh mak terlentang. So now mak baring terlentang totally naked. Bagi mak berada dalam keadaan begitu in front of masseur dah biasa dah. Tak kisahlah masseur lelaki ke masseur pompuan. Maknyah pun inclded sebab dulu mak pernah dapat service massage from one maknyah bernama Lea kat Wangsa Maju. Mula dia masaj kawasan dada mak. Then apabila dia mula masaj paha mak dan a few times tangannya tersentuh cikdicky mak, tangan mak pun mulalah nak menggatal. Masseur tu pula pakai mini skirt so mudahlah tangan mak menggatal. Mak raba-raba. Whe wear a red panty. Jari mak pun sampailah ke kawasan p**** dia. Dia pula tak menegah so apa lagi jari mak pun berlegar-legarlah di situ. Takyahla mak cerita in details ye....nanti jadi cerita porn pula.

Habis massage dia tanya mak nak urut bathin tak. Oleh kerana mak pun dah quite high masa tu, mak pun setuju. Dia kata kena charge RM50 untuk satu sesi. Biasanya kalau gi massage bila kata urut bathin ni bermaksud masturbate. Tukang urut akan mainkan cik dicky seketika dan terus goncang hingga ceritttttsssss....... Tapi this masseur memang bagi urut betul-betul. Pressure dia pun taklah kuat sangat. Bermaksud dia tahu yang urat-urat kawasan itu lembut. So dia lakukan dengan berhati-hati. Tangan dan jari dia berubah antara kawasan celah kangkang mak di bawah the balls dan pada shaft. Walaupun caranya macam nak masturbate tetapi mak dapat rasakan dia bukan nak masturbate mak. Mak dapat bertahan hampir 20 minit juga bila dia buat macam tu. Maybe kerana mak dah terceritttsssss tengahari tadi, maka kali ni mak dapat bertahan. But at last mak terlepas juga. Mak cerittsssss juga.

Walaupun dah ceritss.....masseur tu tidak berhenti. Dia terus massage cik dicky mak dan dari masa mak cerittsssss tu , dia melakukan masaj hampir setengah jam lagi. Biasanya kalau servis urut bathin tu bila customer dah ceritsssss..... dia akan kesatkan dan sesi akan tamat serta merta. Memang mak puas hati denan servisnya malam itu walaupun tidak melibatkan hubungan seks.

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Salam Dari Sibu

Hari ni masuk hari kedua mak kat Sibu ni. Mak stay kat sebuah hotel di tengah-tengah bandar Sibu. Tak payahlah mak sebutkan nama hotel ye? So as usualla sebaik saja masuk bilik lepas check-in perkara pertama mak buat ialah buka laptop dan tengok kalau ada signal WiFi. Hati mak terus ceria apabila menerima signal dari deConneXion. Signal ni merupakan signal dari program broadband kerajaan negeri Sarawak. Dulu masa mak di Miri pun ada juga signal dari server yang sama. Register percuma je. Kira ada internet ni mak hidup la.

Sibu ni bukan kali pertama mak sampai. Entah kali ke berapa mak tak pasti.

Malam tu mak terus masuk MIRC dan buka Yahoo Messenger. Apa lagi nak bersembanglah. Dalam MIRC mak join channel Borneygay dan Sarawak. Mak cuba nak masuk channel Sibu tapi tak boleh sebab addres tu ban. Tatau pasai apa. tapi channel Borneogay tu pun ramai gak gays dari Sibu. Walaupun mak biseksual mak tak kisah untuk berbual dengan gays. Ramai gak yang hantar message untuk chat dgn mak and mostly are Chinese. Ages dalam early 20s to 30s. What the problem is they all nak mak fuck them or they fuck mak tapi mak ni mmg tak nak buat macam tu. Mak tak nak fuck dan tak nak kena fuck. With maknyah pun mak memang tak fuck. Bagi mak just giving and receiving blowjob saja.

Masa chat tu ada juga yang minta nak datang bilik mak tapi mak tak ready untuk accept them lagi. Uols pun tentu chat juga and sure ramai yang ajak uols buat seks kan? Biasalah tu. Nak have sex pun bukan boleh terburu-buru. Kita kena kenal partner tu dengan lebih baik dulu. Masa mak chat kat Penang dulu, ramai gak gay India yang nak ajak mak main. But sorrylah, mak kurang arouse sikit dengan Indian. Bukan mak nak pilih bulu tapi sekurang-kurang partner kita tu kenalah boleh menaikkan nafsu kan? So far memang mak tak pernah bersama Indians but dgn Chinese adalah dua tiga orang. But tu pun semuanya bukan berlaku apa-apa ass fucking. Just blowjob je.

Petang kelmarin mak jalan-jalan kat kawasan pasar malam tu. Tak semene-mena mak jumpa girlfriend mak yang lama. Mak sebenarnya dah hilang no telefon dia. Tulah nak dikatakan jodoh. Tup-tup terserempak dengan dia bersama kawan-kawan maknyah dia. "Eh, sayang....tiba-tiba dia menegur mak. Berdegup juga kerana ucapannya itu membuatkan orang berdekatan mendengarnya. Tapi kerana memikirkan mak berada di tempat asing, mak taklah berapa segan sangat. Lagipun yang ada pada masa itu Chinese je.

Kira-kira jam 2 lebih pagi tadi, telefon bilik mak berdering. Bila mak angkat rupanya kawan mak di bilik sebelah yang call. Dia tanya sama ada mak nak pompuan tak. Pompuan tu ada kat bilik dia. mak pun tatau mana dia jumpa. Dia kata nak suruh pompuan tu datang bilik mak. Kalau mak suka bolehlah go ahead. Katanya just RM 50.00. Hmmm...mak serbasalah juga. Tapi mak mengiyakan saja. So perempuan tu datang ke bilik mak. Usianya dalam mid 30s. Mak duduk bersembang sekejap dengan dia. Dia kata dia janda anak satu dan dah ada cucu. Hmmm..rupanya nenek tetapi tengok wajahnya dan bentuk tubuhnya tak sangka dia dah ada cucu. memang dia masih menyelerakan lagi. Tercabar juga iman mak waktu itu. Apa lagi mak hanya pakai towel hotel saja malam itu. So in the end kami tidak buat apa-apa. just bersembang dan dia minta diri nak balik. Selamat duit mak. Tapi yang lebih selamat ialah keimanan mak.

Mak stop dulu sini. kalau rajin mak sambung lagi. Kalau tak setakat ni sajalah posting mak dari Sibu nie. Oooooo.....uols tau tak mak tak pakai apa-apa dalam bilik nie.

Urut Bathin Hendaklah Berpada-pada

Bagi lelaki memang urut bathin sesuatu yang nikmat, especially kalau yang mengurut itu pompuan. Maka pernah kena urut oleh masseur nyah. Tak pastilah sama ada urut bathin ni boleh disamakan dengan melancap. Sebab sewaktu cik dicky tu kena urut sememangnya dia akan sapukan juga pada kepala yang membawa kepada kegelian yang akhirnya membawa kepada chritttttt.........

Ni sebuah berita apabila terlalu lebih-lebih kena urut bathin.

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So Uols Masturbate?

Mak tahu hampir semua orang melakukannya. Ramai pula yang mengatakan aktiviti masturbation ni boleh menyebabkan lemah tenaga bathin. Boleh menyebabkan sakit pinggang. Macam-macamlah lagi yang maybe uols dengar. Tapi apa yang jelas dari segai agama ianya haram dan diklasifikasikan sebagai zina tangan. Ouls buang benih secara sia-sia yang sepatutnya disemia dalam rahim seorang isteri. But as uols know la, masturbation ni salah satu jalan keluar untuk release tension walaupun tahu ianya haram. Ia juga jalan keluar untuk mengelakkan uols dari melakukan zina melalui persetubuhan haram dengan pasangan yang bukan hak uols seperti isteri atau suami. Whatever alasan yang uols berikan haram tetap haram. Cuma jika uols buat uols tanggung sendirilah kan? Tu hak uols lah.

Apa yang mak nak post kat sini tentang amalan masturbasi dari segi saintifiknya. Bukanlah niat mak nak galakkan uols melakukan masturbasi tetapi sebagai pengetahuan untuk memperjelaskan tentang myth melancap itu.

Mak petik ini dari sebuah blog.

Mengikut Martha Cornog, yang menulis buku "The Big Book of Masturbation", self-pleasuring is surely the second most common human sex act. And, despite its torrid history, that’s proving to be a good thing. Turns out this once taboo behavior has plenty of health benefits and can do wonders for your sex life.

Health Benefits for Men

Research summarized in a 2007 article in Sexual and Relationship Therapy found that masturbation may help men by:

— Improving his immune system’s functioning.

— Building his resistance to prostate gland infection.

— Making for a healthier prostate.

Australian researchers have reported that frequent masturbation may lower a man’s risk of developing prostate cancer. A survey of men found the more frequently a man masturbates between the ages of 20 and 50, the less likely they are to get prostate cancer. In fact, those who masturbated more than five times a week were one-third less likely to develop prostate cancer.

Health Benefits for Females

When it comes to a woman’s health, self-pleasuring serves her well by:

— Building her resistance to yeast infections.

— Combating pre-menstrual tension and other physical conditions associated with their menstrual cycles, like cramps.

— Relieving painful menstruation by increasing blood flow to the pelvic region. This will also reduce pelvic cramping and related backaches.

— Relieving chronic back pain and increasing her threshold for pain.

Health Benefits for Both Sexes

Masturbation rewards both men and women because it’s:

— The safest kind of sex, keeping you free of sexually transmitted infections.

— A great form of stress relief.

— A mood booster in releasing endorphins.

— A natural sleep sedative.

— A mechanism for building stronger pelvic floor muscles, which can lead to better sex.

— A natural energetic pick-me-up.

As Sigmund Freud once remarked at the Vienna Psycho-Analytical Society, “the subject of masturbation is quite inexhaustible.” While he wasn’t getting at the benefits (Freud saw self-pleasuring as harmful to the genitals and one’s psychosexual and moral development), the same can be said in how it can improve one’s sexual relationship.

For couples who masturbate on occasion or regularly, sex with yourself can:

— Be empowering, especially by helping you to feel better about your body, genitals and sexual response.

— Deliver some of your most intense orgasms ever, which you’ll now know how to recreate with that special someone!

— Increase your sexual awareness, giving you the opportunity to discover what turns you on – the sensations and movements that work best to give you the greatest of sexual gratification.

— Have the potential to enhance your sex life in general, boosting your sexual confidence and turning you into a better lover.

— Get you or your partner off the hook if neither is available or not in the mood.

Reference: HERE

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